I Love Her

In April, it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am still in love with my ex-girlfriend. I told her this. She cried, and regretfully told me she's with someone else.

My greatest hope? To win her back and spend the rest of my life with her. My greatest fear? That she'll find love elsewhere, and my chances are over.

This is one of many ways I cope.

In the best interests of her, my friends, and I, this blog will remain anonymous.

This is real.

advice / encouragement / support / stories: as long as it takes @ gmail
Jul 29
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E-mail from a reader

“I just stumbled across your blog… I’ve never really emailed someone I don’t know at all, but so much of what you’re writing resonates with me. I don’t have much advice to give, because I’m in pretty much the same boat. my ex-boyfriend wanted to get married, but I just wasn’t ready. (I mean, what 25-yr-old guy actually wants to commit & the girl is the one who pulls away?? ugh.) looking back, I can’t believe how immature I was. immature & scared. every day, I wish I could go back and embrace all that love instead of pushing him away like I did. it’s the worst feeling, but I keep on telling myself that everything happens for a reason, that I’ve learned so much through this break-up, and that if we are really meant to be together, we will be. but still, it’s hard to just sit around when you have all these feelings & don’t know what to do with them. one thing that actually has helped me: I blocked his facebook profile & the profiles of all of his friends. kind of drastic, and so hard to do, but the constant “news-feed” reminders were like torture. I mean, the pictures of him with other girls just made me sick to my stomach. so that might help you a little.

anyway, I obviously am no expert here & I don’t know you at all, but I truly do believe that if you love her that much, she will find her way back to you. she will. because there are lots of guys out there, but true love is hard to find. and you wouldn’t feel this way unless it were real love. so she’s bound to come back to you. hang in there!”

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I’ve been hearing this recurring theme often.. that if I do love her as much as I do, and I do, she’ll find her way back to me; that there’s no way she doesn’t feel it too. I can’t wait to prove that theory right.

I’m really interested in hearing people’s stories. If wearing my heart on my sleeve inspires people to approach someone they love or are falling for to do the same, it’s icing on the cake. For what it’s worth: you have nothing to lose.

Thanks so much for your email.